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Bess began working with Microsoft SharePoint in 2003 and has worked with every version since, including 2016 and Office 365.  She enjoys leveraging her business analyst skills to assist organizations in getting the most out of their Microsoft investment.

During her Information Technology journey, Bess discovered the joys of improvisation.  She has traveled the country to study improv, including the top three schools in Chicago – The Second City, iO, and The Annoyance.  She performs locally with Dinner Detective and is the director of Indy Improv Collaborative, an improv troupe nominated for Nuvo’s Best of Indy in 2017.

Bess combines her improv skills with her 20 years of corporate experience in Information Technology, allowing her to specialize in collaborative solutions.  She is the owner of Collaborative Ventures, LLC.

Bess lives in Indianapolis, IN where she is raising her three children.

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Who Wins The Battle of Wills?

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Peaceful Parenting posted the following Maria Montessori quote on Facebook yesterday:
"How can we speak of Democracy or Freedom when from the very beginning of life we mold the child to undergo tyranny, to obey a dictator? How can we expect democracy when we have reared slaves? Real freedom begins at the beginning of life, not at the adult stage. These people who have been diminished in their powers, made short-sighted, devitalized by mental fatigue, whose bodies have become distorted, whose wills have been broken by elders who say: “your will must disappear and mine prevail!”—how can we expect them, when school-life is finished, to accept and use the rights of freedom?"

Sometimes I am surprised by the thoughts and ideas I carry with me into my parenting journey.  Before I had children I bought into the mainstream idea that my main goal as a parent was to control their behavior.  I envisioned lovely times out in public where the slightest sign of disobedience would be immediately corrected by simply giving them "the look".  I knew that no matter how strong their wills were, mine would be stronger.    I now realize that I was planning to go to war with my children long before they were born.
I can see how easy the trap is.  Our society's measure of successful parenting is more focused on developing quiet compliance than it is developing whole individuals, especially in the early years.  The most age appropriate behavior is often frowned upon in public, even at supposedly family-friendly locations.  The sentiments of "control your child" is everywhere.  And let's face it, it's certainly easier in the short term to demand compliance at any cost.
I long to make my home a place of peace where the love of Christ reigns.  There is enough war outside our walls already.  I don't have any great ideas on how to walk this path.  Sometimes I don't even know how to take the first step.  But I know one thing... my children are not my enemy and if I focus on winning, we will all lose.
As a bonus, I want to leave you with this post from Little Hearts.
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